I’ve noticed a phrase that’s being used more and more, especially by younger colleagues and peers: “This is bad for my mental health.”
Sometimes it’s said when there's uncertainty. Sometimes it’s about a task that feels overwhelming. Sometimes it’s in a situation where someone decides they need to step back - for their mental health.
I always pause when I hear it. Not because I don’t take it seriously - I do; mental health matters, deeply. But I find myself wondering: what do we actually mean when we say that? Because sometimes, I think what’s really being felt is:
- “This is stressful.”
- “I’m feeling anxious.”
- “I’m overwhelmed.”
- “I’m afraid I’ll fail.”
These are all real, valid human emotions. But none of them are necessarily a sign of mental illness; and that distinction matters.
Where We Are Now
There’s been a massive, necessary and long-overdue shift in the way we talk about mental health - especially among younger generations. Schools, campaigns and social media have helped to destigmatise things that were once hidden, taboo and silenced. Gen Z in particular have grown up being taught to pay attention to their emotions, to speak up and to advocate for their mental wellbeing. That’s a good thing. But like many good things, it comes with nuance.
We’ve raised awareness - but we haven’t always taught emotional literacy. We’ve told people not to ignore mental health - but haven’t always given them the tools to make sense of what they’re feeling.
Which means that in a culture where everyone has heard of “anxiety” and “mental health”, it’s easy to conflate having anxious feelings with having a diagnosed Anxiety disorder. Or to feel discomfort and assume it must mean something’s wrong with us.
Because in reality, sometimes discomfort is exactly the right emotional response to the situation.
Making Sense of What We Feel
I wonder whether one of the most helpful questions we could ask ourselves, is: “Does what I’m feeling make sense in the context I’m in?”
If I’m worried about whether a lump on my body is something more sinister, of course I’m going to be concerned and start to feel anxious. That’s not a problem with my mental health - that’s a fully functional emotional system alerting me to a real-life challenge which I need to respond to.
Or when I’ve lost someone I love, I feel sad, withdrawn, even numb. Again, that's not a disorder. That's grief doing its work, painful as it is.
But sometimes emotions don’t align with the reality of a situation; and that’s where reflection becomes important.
Let’s say I’m going to meet some friends. They’ve never given me a reason to think they’ll laugh at me or humiliate me. But I feel dread. I don’t want to speak. I assume the worst. And part of me knows this fear isn’t rational, but I can’t shake it.
That might be a sign of something more. It might be Anxiety - not just a feeling, but a pattern. Not just a reaction to a hard situation, but an overreaction to a safe one. And that’s when support matters.
This isn’t about denying feelings. It’s about listening more closely to them - and asking what they’re trying to tell us.
The Power of Naming Emotions
When we reach for catch-all phrases like “my mental health is suffering”, we can sometimes blur the edges of what’s really going on. We skip over the opportunity to identify the specific emotion beneath the discomfort. And that makes it harder to process and respond to, as well as to ask for the right kind of help.
Instead of saying:
- “This job is bad for my mental health,”
we could try: - “I’m feeling burned out because I’ve had no time to rest.”
Or instead of:
- “This project is causing me anxiety,”
we could say: - “I feel anxious because I’m not sure I have what I need to succeed - and I’m afraid of letting people down.”
There's such a difference between these two. The second examples don’t minimise the emotion - they actually make it clearer. And that clarity gives us choices about what we can do next to change the situation.
What This Means for Workplaces
If you're a manager, founder or team member, you're in a position to support a healthier emotional culture at work. Here are some of the ways you could do that:
- Model emotional specificity. Be the one who says “I feel under pressure because X,” instead of just “I’m not doing well.”
- Treat emotions as information. Not something to be solved or silenced, but something to be understood.
- Listen without over-pathologising. Sometimes people do need support but sometimes they simply need to name what they’re feeling and feel heard.
Support can take many shapes and there are so many great resources and organisations out there that can help - whether that's finding ways to make adjustments to the way someone works so as to help them thrive or getting access to therapy.
Final Thought
Mental health is real. Anxiety is real. And so is fear. So is self-doubt. So is sadness, shame and everything in between.
Let’s keep making space for those feelings. But let’s also get better at naming them, exploring them and understanding what they’re telling us.
Because not everything that's uncomfortable is a crisis. Sometimes it’s just life - and a well-functioning emotional system doing its job.
And that's a sign of good mental health, which is part of being healthy.
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I'd like to give a shout out to Brené Brown for her pioneering work around unpacking emotions. I've personally found her book, Atlas of the Heart to be an informative read.